I am being totally KPO.

I've got two girlfriends , let's call them A and B.
Both A and B have been complaining to me about their boyfriends these days and coincidentally , both of them quarreled with their bfs yesterday.
Their situations are very different from one another though.

A's situation:
"my bf changed!", she claimed.
"He used to chat with me over the phone till I am willing to go to bed and he doesn't do that anymore. When I wanna talk to him he goes "can i go to sleep? i am very tired already can i go to sleep?!" "
A also told me that his bf is being paranoid. Everytime she asked about his whereabout and plans later , he'll be very frustrated and goes "You think I wanna be at this XXX meh? I also dunwan one what it's just that they caught me for meeting what can i do ! is it my fault!!!??? " or "you can don't ask not!? can you give me some time of my own?!"


A few months ago, A was seen talking happily over the phone every break/lunch time，I still remember that time I was quite "OMG" with her 撒娇content over the phone. It seems like the guy is finally losing interest in this superglue relationship already.Not entirely his fault i guess.
A said she did asked her bf in the past if he finds her too "sticky" , but her bf said "NVM i like"
I think A doesn't know that it means "I don't mind now because you are my new gf and you are so cute" That does not mean he's gonna be like that forever. you can't expect a guy to treat you the same way like how he had treated you in the honeymoon period after like..say 3years.
Obviously A's relationship is not 3year old, in fact , i heard 28th this month is their 1year anniversary. Their honeymoon period lasted for like 8months , which from my point of view is already considerably long.(My past relationship don't even last 3months , not to mention honeymoon period)
A cannot accept it when i told her the fact : Guys change in a relationship once the honeymoon period is over. It's just a matter of how long or short it is. You can't expect him to remain the same(that's only possible if your bf is Kenneth). So long as he remains not-too-bad , you are considered quite lucky already.
Don't stick around too much , leave him alone to think about it ..and for you to think about it.


B's situation:
"He keeps on accusing me that I do not care about him because I don't talk to him over the phone at night everyday like how I used to"
B is busy with a lot of school work and her CCA is hectic , I bet she's like me , sleep deprived.
she told me this morning that " he called me ytd ask why can't I chat with him and help share some of him problems.. wth I am so busy I don't even have time for myself and I can't even solve my own problems where on earth do i find time to share his problem?!"

my stand is : B is at wrong.
B shouldn't have talked to him over the phone every night in the past.
you are spoiling him and now he has got the habit of talking to you every night before you turn in to bed , and any phone conversations at any other time of the day does not count.(wtf? too demanding and immature?)
It's not his fault that he needs someone to share his problems. B is his gf and that is indeed her job. But her bf could have been more understanding , her gf is dying of exhaustion already do you still bear to have her stay up late just to listen to your complaints ? Everyone has problems,why not solve them yourself instead of adding more burden to someone's life?

I think I am more like B.
Being possessive is such a nono
not chatting over the phone for a few days is not going to kill anyone.
The relationship is already almost 3 years old.
It should be stable and not easily affected by such minor stuffs, yet the guy acts like a pussy and kicking a fuss over it.
okay, if she's your new gf maybe still understandable.
perhaps B understands the theory more:
The better you treat a guy, the more you stick around , the more sick he will be of you(sooner of later).
The one who loves the least, controls the relationship.-Dr. Robert Anthony

This is funny. Two girls , completely different personality in love.
one bo chup , one chup too much.

-A's bf already apologised , but B and I asked her not to forgive him so easily.
-B told me she agreed to be his gf because her mom likes this guy. which totally doesn't make sense. Ask your mom to go steady with this guy instead.